Is work-life balance a scam?

Is work Life Family balance a scam if you are a working mother and you have children like me the whole concept of work-life family balance can become extremely overwhelming we all want to achieve it but the idea when you Google it when you look online seems completely unachievable. The reality is that the expectations on Mothers today are at an all-time high yet the support is very very low we're expected to work as though we don't have children and expected to parent as though we don't have a job now for many of us this is not something we're willing to sacrifice we want to be a very present and purposeful mother but we also want to kick ass at our jobs personally. I am the CEO and the founder of be baby a very large International Company where we help mothers and their children get the sleep that they need we simplify everyday life for parents through strategies and we help them become extremely confident in their Parenting by giving them unlimited guidance and advice and I have been growing this company for the past five years while also having five children so work-life family balance is a subject that touches home and I find that if you look on social media if you look on YouTube the idea of work-life family balance is extremely strict and severe. What they recommend are boundaries that are very clear and unflexible. I recently actually tried this super boundary approach and my work suffered tremendously but on the other side we often feel this guilt if we're going all in into our careers and then we end up sort of Shifting back and forth. The other concept that I have tried and many have tried is to just really go all in on both sides right being like the Pta mom but also is extremely present at work but what she ends up sacrificing is sleep and as a result she ends up burning out. I personally have tried both and it just hasn't worked out for me like at all and for me it is not acceptable to not be a present and purposeful mother and raising the bar on my parenting but it's also not acceptable for me to not raise the bar on my career. So what I ended up finding out is the whole concept of work-life family balance is actually a scam now before you go like crying to the wolves and saying Sam you're nuts like how are we supposed to do this if we're putting aside the whole idea of work-life family balance I want to introduce a different concept that has actually worked for me and this concept is the fact that work Life Family balance actually Ebbs and flows and so I find that there are different seasons there are different moments even from day to day sometimes um I have to Prior prioritize one over the other. You can Bank like you can Bank extras you can Bank you know extra content if you're you know a Creator like me um you can thank you know extra time with your children Etc so that when you go in a season where you need to prioritize one over the other just focus a little bit more you've banked enough to be able to do that without you know losing touch with either or. We are told to redefine success at work when we become mothers right and that redefinition is usually somewhere around the lines of I'm there I'm present I'm working well and I'm bringing home a paycheck that pays the bills and and for me that definition is not enough for me um my definition or my redefinition of success at work is to have beautiful big inspiring goals I have to want to do what I do I have to be motivated to achieve something if I want to grow otherwise I'm just going to stay at that same stage and so I feel like I need like a heart goal so I have my very you know quantifiable you know um calculable goals on which I put dates you know every single year months uh even weeks and days which helps me achieve a larger goal but I also need like a heart or a spiritual goal that underlines all of that like some sort of reason for everything that I do and even if you don't work for yourself and you work for another company I mean if your career driven there's something that led you to do what you do and so you just you need to take a moment to reconnect with that that that's the first thing because otherwise it just becomes a job it just becomes paying the bills and that is not motivating at all now in terms of redefining you know motherhood um one thing for me that has been really important is to let go of the cultural idea of what a good mom is and to realize that certain things matter most and so if you want to redefine motherhood in what matters most to you and your children usually it'll come down to maybe two or three sentences. And you need to completely block out everybody's opinion including my own everything you find on social and media your own mother your friends your sister and that will liberate you substantially just doing that will make a huge difference in eliminating that Mom guilt. #worklifebalance #parentingtips